No. 313

If you are old enough to remember when people made lard by boiling hog fat, then you know this process is called rendering. The lard was the by-product of rendering as the hog fat was changed to a liquid state, the impurities strained out and then allowed to get cold. What this process produced was called lard. In fact, the dictionary definition of lard is “the semisolid fat of a hog after rendering.”
The reason I have shared this is because I wanted to get you to start thinking along the lines of rendering and the by-product that comes from this process. As this relates to a human being there is a very important concept that may make a difference in your life. I know it has mine. This is what happens to a human being, especially a very young child, when the rendering takes place as the result of too many unexplained injunctions. It’s going to take a little while to explain this so I hope you will be patient.
One of the most brilliant people who ever lived was Dr. Maria Montessori, an Italian physician who passed away back in 1952. She was the first woman to receive a medical degree in Italy but her life’s work for which she is most noted was the upbringing and education of very young children. You no doubt are familiar with the Montessori Schools which are located throughout the world. Dr. Montessori believed that a child’s education should begin at birth, not in the traditional sense, but that parents and guardians should prepare a proper learning environment. She worked with hundreds of emotionally disturbed children and most could read by age three and a half and were excellent readers who could speak 3 or 4 languages by the age of five.
If you are not familiar with her work you may ask, “how could they do that?” The answer is through THE ABSORBENT MIND. Her book by the same title is the best on this subject that I have ever read. Space limitations will not permit me to go into more detail but this is a book that every parent, especially expectant parents, should read. Unless you are an educator or child psychologists this book will give you insights that could make a tremendous difference in your life and the life of your children. I know one thing for sure, I use to think that the Montessori Schools were only for the affluent, but that’s not the case at all.
Now let me return to what I was saying about the rendering of too many unexplained injunctions . When a baby is born he begins the process of learning through THE ABSORBENT MIND. Please think about this simple example. When a baby is born and up until about 10 months most things are positive in his life. We all make over a new baby, that’s just natural. It’s along about here that things in his life begins to change when he begins to crawl and later walk and he begins to get into everything. All of a sudden instead of hearing “Yes” all the time, he begins to hear “No.”
An “unexplained injunction” is a ‘yes’ without a reason. An “unexplained injunction” is also a ‘no’ without a reason. As parents, unless we continue to provide a positive environment where genuine love is fostered and cognitive reasoning is developed, the outcome or rendering could be very harmful. When a child grows up in a negative environment and all they hear is NO, NO, NO...along with a good bit of physical abuse, they begin to say to themselves, even after a few months of life, the world is no darn good. I’m here to tell you that our prisons and jails are full of people whose life force and direction was set before they were two years of age. (Jim Davidson is a motivational speaker and syndicated columnist. You may contact him at 2 Bentley Drive, Conway, AR 72034.)